quick lit – next page, please {february 2016}

 

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Here we are again, Quick Lit link-up time with Modern Mrs. Darcy. I am having a really good time telling you guys about what I have been reading and you continue to hold me accountable to my goal of reading 36 books in 2016. I have read 7 books and am currently 4 books ahead of schedule.

Read:

  • The Expats by Chris Pavonne: I previously abandoned this book a about a year ago so this fulfilled the Modern Mrs. Darcy’s 2016 Reading Challenge category: Book You Previously Abandoned. I have been thinking about why I abandoned it. The novel’s main character, Kate is a new stay-at-home mom who has just quit her job. I believe the novel was hitting too close to home in this regard at the time. The emotions that Kate feels, her resentment, her guilt, her boredom, are all emotions that I have felt over the past year since having my son. Since completing the book, I found that I really liked it; as I initially knew I would. I thoroughly enjoyed Pavonne’s second book, The Accident, which I read first because it was a novel about books, publishing, etc. I am looking forward to the release of his third book, The Travelers, releasing next month! And like Kate, (spoiler ahead) I feel like I am seeing the light at the end of the tunnel of my stay-at-home boredom. I “will reboot [myself]. Relaunch.”
  • The Art Forger by B. A. Shapiro: Over the past year I have discovered that I really enjoy books about art and art forgery. I really enjoyed this novel; it was entertaining and I read it in 24 hours. Thus another Reading Challenge category: Book You Can Finish In a Day checked. The novel had a lot of flashbacks which could have been confusing but with the change in the font for each time period, it was easy to keep up with the action.
  • Four Seasons in Rome: On Twins, Insomnia, and the Biggest Funeral in the History of the World by Anthony Doerr: I enjoyed Doerr’s writing style which was hauntingly beautiful and sometimes made me ache. So I took my time reading it even though it was a relatively small book. His memories of life with his young twin infant sons, is what I am currently living through right now, the teething being first and foremost. I am also suffering from imsomnia. I am writing this at 3 AM. When I get up to tend to the Buddy Man, sometimes I find that I cannot go back to sleep. So I read. I write. I try to make it productive. And like Doerr, I ask:“Is this what it means to be a parent – to constantly fail to be in control of anything?”
  • Kissing Shakespeare by Pamela Mingle: This was a YA novel and I have not read many YA novels. This seemed to be what your typical YA novel would be, to me: easy to read Kissing Shakespeareand an easy to understand storyline. I enjoyed the time travel aspect (it is fun to read about individuals going back or coming forward to a time not their own. I have loved this ever since I first read Connecticut Yankee in King Arthur’s Court by Mark Twain). The picture on the cover was slightly misleading in terms of the kind of book it was going to be.  It had a some dark moments that I didn’t expect and  I didn’t enjoy it as much as I thought that I would.
  • Simply Tuesday by Emily P. Freeman: I heard a lot of good things about this book and I downloaded a sample few months ago. I started it but it took me a while to really get into her writing style. Then the ebook became available for 99 cents about a month ago and I got it. I used it as my inspirational/devotional reading in the morning and I enjoyed it immensely. I highlighted many thought-provoking quotations and will probably reread this many times during my lifetime. One that particularly struck me was this one about how I use to live prior to my journey of comfortably being and what I constantly struggle against to this day: “It’s possible to live as though every move you make is an anxious attempt to avoid unwanted consequences rather than a thoughtful decision to move toward life.”
  • 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think by Laura Vanderkam: This book caused me to rethink my personal belief system about time and what I can do as a mom. “A life is a bundle of task and activities an individual takes on.  Some, like sleeping and eating, are required, but the rest are simply combinations of choices each of us makes, bundled together for one reason or another…”

Currently Reading:

  • To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee: Fulfilling the 2016 Reading Challenge category: Book You Should Have Read in School. I know, I know! How can I have a degree in English and not have read this great American classic? The subject matter: rape and racial inequality are not my typical reading fare and it was never assigned in school so I never picked it up. However, my good friend, Jamila was reading it recently and loved it! Between her recommendation and the discussion about it on Episode 4 of What Should I Read Next podcast, I figured now was the time.
  • Wildflower by Drew Barrymore: I have always been fascinated by Drew Barrymore: her personality, her outlook on life, her history. I admire how she has become the woman that she is today. I thought her book would give me some insights so I picked it up with a huge stack of other Holds from my library.  I didn’t think that it would be the one that I read first (I generally look at my stack and skim the first few pages of each book before deciding what to read next, if I don’t have a particular one in mind). I started and didn’t move on to the others and now I am flying through it.

Paused Reading:

What have you read lately that was really good. Tell me in the comments. It’s not like my TBR list isn’t long enough yet.:)

enjoy life…

friday’s “secret”: practice empathy when you can, sympathy when you can’t

This post was inspired by my thoughts while listening to the sixth episode of Modern Mrs. Darcy’s What Should I Read Next. Anne and her guest, Tsh Oxenreider, spent a little time discussing the book, Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail by Cheryl Strayed. Both of them didn’t particularly care for the book and abandoned it but after reading Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar, also by Strayed, Anne said that she had more insight into Strayed’s life experiences and was thinking of giving Wild another shot.

I read Wild last year and while it isn’t one of my favorite books, I enjoyed it because I wanted to read about Cheryl’s journey, hiking the Pacific Crest Trail. I personally wanted to know how she could go out into the wild, alone, while never hiking before. I was curious as to how she dealt with the fear and I wanted to read her story. And while I wouldn’t have made some of the choices that Cheryl made, I realized that the book was a story about a certain time of her life and it is highly unlikely that who she was then who she is now. I’m different and I don’t know if any book can tell an entire story; it can only give us glimpses into certain aspects, certain thoughts, and certain experiences of someone at that particular time.

Which is also what we are only able to see of each other in actual life. It made me think about how we, in our humanness, often make judgments about other people, often times not knowing their story. And when we do know bits and pieces, we are quick to judge without empathy (if that is possible) or sympathy (when empathizing is not available).

I did this all the time. But life had a way of showing me a lot of my flaws, causing me to be empathetic to a lot of situations. Plus, in attempting to connect with others in a sincere and authentic way, I have begun to be more sympathetic to others.

I don’t know if anyone can tell that I am making the effort but I am a lot happier. No judgment here! And it’s a lot easier to…

…enjoy life.

enjoy life guest post: joy anderson

I am so excited to feature my first guest post on the blog today. Joy is one of my external motivators on Fitbit. She is always initiating Challenges which help keep me moving throughout the day.  She also introduced me and encouraged me to listen to what has become one of my favorite podcasts, Happier with Gretchen Rubin. And finally she is my sister-in-law-in-law. Is that a thing? But we were friends long before my sister and her brother decided to be together.

This is how she enjoys life.

Joy Anderson and Quabbin

Joy Anderson and The Quabbin

Two of my personal commandments (Another Gretchen Rubin fan here. Hello!) directly relate to enjoying life: (1) Treat yourself and (2) do more of what makes you happy. In my sometimes successful pursuit of following these commandments, I’ve combined two of my favorite things: listening to podcasts (treat) while walking outside (doing what makes me happy).

My spot to walk (sometimes hike) is the Quabbin Reservoir. Whether it’s sunny or overcast, the Quabbin is gorgeous. After being cooped up all week at work, in my car, or my apartment, it’s glorious to be outside. The Quabbin, the largest inland body of water in Massachusetts, also has an interesting history. In the 1930s, four towns were disincorporated – homes, businesses, and cemeteries were all relocated – and the area was flooded to become the primary water supply source for Boston as well as 40 other communities in Greater Boston. The Quabbin covers 38.6 square miles, and has several park/recreation areas like the one near my home. While working out in my tiny studio gives me a mood boost, it’s nothing compared to walking/hiking in the fresh air. Last Sunday was warm and sunny and I conquered the Visitor Center Loop Trail. I got lost last time; need to work on that sense of direction!

And why not make a good thing even better? I love listening to podcasts, but I have trouble finding the time to listen to a whole episode without interruption. It’s such a treat to listen to my favorites all the way through while walking the Quabbin. Listening to Happier inspires me to try new things, or I can learn something new on Hidden Brain, and even get in a core workout by laughing along with the hosts of Another Round. I ignore texts and phone calls and just enjoy life outside – away from walls, work, and worries beyond how I can incorporate Happier’s Try This at Home Tip into my week.

 I definitely enjoy life more when I have me time (even if you live alone, you still need “me time”) and the Quabbin is my spot. If it’s not snowing this weekend I might consider exploring another trail or maybe I’ll stick to something familiar. We’ll see 🙂

If you don’t already have a favorite spot of your own, I hope you find one.

You can keep up with Joy on Pinterest and on Tumblr.

enjoy life…