now i get it {summer 2019}

This summer has been particularly exciting and rewarding for me.  Here are a few highlights:

  • I went on a REAL beach vacy, and by real, I mean with chairs, umbrellas, buckets and shovels, food, and I wore a swimsuit for what is probably only the fifth time in my life.
  • I accepted a new position doing what my Daddy has described as my “perfect dream job”.
  • I was asked to sit on the Planning Committee for the 4th Annual Mompreneur Event in September hosted by The Catalyst Center for Business & Entrepreneurship. Then, I was asked to present on the topic of goal setting and prioritizing. That will happen on September 20th. Get your tickets here, if you want to see how I do. LOL
  • My family and I went to see my sister and her family and she had a BBQ and Pool Party. Wearing that swimsuit, again, I got in the pool. FYI, I can’t swim.
  • Last night, our book club, the Rocket City Mom Virtual Book Club, hosted Mary Laura Philpott, author of the memoir in essays, I Miss You When I Blink. I can’t even begin to tell you how nerve-wracking, but thrilling, that was. We have been planning it since May and I have been dreaming about having an author participate in a book discussion since we started the book club three years ago.
  • I completed my 95th consecutive day of exercise yesterday.

As I was reflecting back on these wonderful and new experiences, I realized that every single one of them existed because I did it, with fear. I talked about this in April here. And as I contemplated it further, I realized that the truth of the statement:

 “Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.”

– George Addair

A day at the beach in a swimsuit despite being afraid of being too fat to wear one. Accepting a dream position while handling the negativity my mind always throws at me that I am not good enough and that I will most assuredly fail.  Sitting on the Planning Committee despite thinking I have nothing to contribute and then agreeing to present while wondering if I am really the one that will be the best for the topic. Getting in a pool while wearing that swimsuit, again. Reaching out to Mary Laura (yes, she said that I can call her Mary Laura) to participate in our book club afraid that she would say no, then she said yes and I was afraid that no one would show up and that I would make an idiot of myself. Honestly, starting the book club was scary three years ago. When I started the #RunningWorld Running Streak the Sunday before Memorial Day, my goal was to run a mile every day for 40 days.  I didn’t think that I could make it but, like Forrest Gump, I’ve just kept going.

All of these things have turned into experiences that will be included in the highlight reel of my life. And every single one of them would NOT have happened if I had let fear decide, for some insane reason, that we weren’t going to do it.

Now I get it.  Everything I want is on the other side of fear.  If I am afraid of it, more than likely, it will be a very rewarding experience.

What you want is on the other side of fear. What do you want?

I’m linking up with Emily P. Freeman and her community to share what we learned. Head there to see others. You can learn a lot. And you can check out what I learned this Spring, last Winter and Fall, if you’re so inclined.  They seem to be building on each other. 

now i get it {spring 2019}

 

The past few seasons, I knew my “Now I Get It” lesson as soon as it happened.  Many times, I would start working on the post right away, sometimes weeks before the season was over.

This Spring has been different. This Spring has contained so many events that have sparked more ups and downs on my emotional roller coaster at one time than I have experienced in my life which included being a guest on the What Should I Read Next Podcast Episode 179 and a traumatic event. If you’ve been following me here, you will know that it has been overwhelming, terrifying, and exhilarating often on the very same day.

I survived, and maybe even thrived, by attempting to stay fully present in the moment that I was currently in.  I couldn’t do anything about what had happened before and I often did not have a clue as to what was going to happen in the future.  The best I could do was to attempt to stay intentionally focused on what was directly in front of me.

I say attempt because the act of staying is hard.  It often is, isn’t it? We dwell so much on the past, what we should have done and what would be different if we had done it differently. We worry about the future, what will happen and what we will do when it does happen or what we will do when it doesn’t happen and the myriad of scenarios that could happen in between, worrying ourselves sick in the present about something that HASN’T EVEN HAPPENED YET! I know. I am the queen, president, and dictator of the land of Worry.  My mom says that at around three-years-old, I told her “life was hard”.

But at close to 40, I am realizing the complete pointlessness of worry and this Spring I have begun putting into the place the one strategy that I have found that works: stay in the present moment. The axiom of Jesus, “to live one day at a time” has begun to become a very real thing and something that I have realized that I CAN actually do.

A meditation practice has helped. Journaling has helped.  Stillness has helped.  Running has helped.  Reading has helped.  The book, The Next Right Thing by Emily P. Freeman, has helped.

Now I get it. Stay in the present. And do whatever I need to do to stay there.

 enjoy life…

I’m joining Emily P. Freeman to share what we learned this Spring. Head over to her community to check out other lessons learned.

now i get it {winter 2019}

Linking up with Emily P. Freeman and the What We Learned Community to share lessons learned this winter.

Now I get it. It’s OK to slow down. It’s OK to pause. It’s OK to do what feels like nothing.

I intensely dislike winter-hate seems too strong a word to use in this setting but dislike isn’t strong enough.  I specifically dislike winters in Alabama.  The temperature is cold. The sky is gray, most of the time. And it is very very wet.  This month, we have had the most rainfall in four or five years. Without the magic of snow, I might add.  Winters in Alabama are depressing. And for me, the gray days often prompt the gray thoughts.

In November, I decided to try something different this winter. Instead of thinking that I suffer from seasonal affective disorder, I decided that the winter is the time of year where my body, mind, and spirit need a break.  Essentially, I decided to become a bear.

Going into the winter with this mindset made me very nervous.  Deciding to focus on rest seemed so counterintuitive. I believed that I would feel lazy and unproductive as I sat around, essentially, doing nothing.

However, the opposite has proven to be true.  This winter, as I rested, I also have posted to the blog nine times, including a guest post from my sister. We featured Becky Glaze in the first Enjoy Life Interview of the year. We started the first EnjoyLife Project: Create Home thru KonMari. And I have completed the first category: Clothes. Blog post coming in March.  I have started hosting What I’m Into on the first of every month and a good number of you are linking your posts to the site.  I am so honored to have you. Our next post is tomorrow, March 1.

I hosted my first New Year’s visioning party in January. I have read 4 books this year of the 39 that I want to read in 2019. I have attended two Writing Retreats and have written 4000 words to a novel that I want to write. I also volunteered with The CornerStone Initiative for the annual C4 Conference.

On February 12th, Danielle LaPorte wrote a poem: Building Strength. In it she discusses the concept of building strength through rest and feeling deeply. Take a look at it here.

It has proven true for me this winter.

What about you? Do you find that rest makes you more productive?

P.S. One good thing about being in Alabama during the winter months is that we often have at least one burst of Springlike temps and sunshine.  We had one this month, before all the rain, and are going through another right now. Folks are wearing sandals, I kid you not.

enjoy life…

P.P.S. I also played a lot of Sims 4, but if we are being honest, that was something that I intended to do going into this experiment.