now i get it {winter 2020}

I’m linking up with Emily P. Freeman and the What We Learned community to share what we learned this winter.

Now I Get It. Winter2020

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Ahh, my favorite season of the year. NOT! I am so ready for Winter to be over! I am beginning to see hints of buds on tree and bushes, as I write this, and that makes me pretty excited.  All that being said, I learned something this winter.

There are many different types of flowers in the world.  Yes, I know, mind blowing right?  But think about it: there are the kind that need next to nothing to bloom (cactus flowers in an arid desert, dandelions between concrete cracks).  There are the kind that need a little bit of care and then, once cut, with a little water stay pretty forever (carnations and daisies). There are roses and hydrangeas.  With care they will bloom beautifully but once cut, don’t last long at all. Finally, there are orchids.  Ah, the orchids. I have killed about 5 of these gorgeous flowers. They required very distinctive care: 3 ice cubes, not too close to the window but close enough to get enough light but only if the temperature is right.  Just the right mix of humidity: not to dry but not to wet.  Not really dirt but some special dirt and moss blend – the list is endless. And move them an inch in the wrong direction and they are doomed.

People are just like that.  Some of us, through our DNA and/or life circumstances and our sheer will, have been equipped to bloom through the concrete.  I say us, but I don’t mean us, in the literal sense.  I am not one of those; I am an orchid.  I need just the right mix to bloom at all and then only for short periods at a time.

What does my mix look like? I have been working on that this winter.  A morning reading, followed by a half hour of journaling.  Meditation and prayer is next.  A podcast is good also and I have been diving into back episodes of Emily’s The Next Right Thing. Then a morning run tops it off nicely. To keep up with this extensive morning routine, I require a bedtime no later than 10 PM.  And all of this just to get a good start to the day.

I lamented my neediness for years! Why did I required all of these things? There must be something wrong with me? Why was I such a pansy? Which, by the way, isn’t an accurate cliché seeing that pansies can survive temperatures below 32 degrees. Then I realized and now I get (with the help of friends and the Hubby) that the orchid doesn’t wish it was a dandelion.  It doesn’t look at all of its requirements, fights against the grain, threatening not to bloom. It is what it is – an orchid – and it needs what it needs for it to offer it’s best to the world.

We are the same way.  We are what we are and we need what we need to be our best for our world.  Now I get it. I’m an orchid and now it’s time for me to get ready to go to sleep.

What do you need?

enjoy life…

now i get it {summer 2019}

This summer has been particularly exciting and rewarding for me.  Here are a few highlights:

  • I went on a REAL beach vacy, and by real, I mean with chairs, umbrellas, buckets and shovels, food, and I wore a swimsuit for what is probably only the fifth time in my life.
  • I accepted a new position doing what my Daddy has described as my “perfect dream job”.
  • I was asked to sit on the Planning Committee for the 4th Annual Mompreneur Event in September hosted by The Catalyst Center for Business & Entrepreneurship. Then, I was asked to present on the topic of goal setting and prioritizing. That will happen on September 20th. Get your tickets here, if you want to see how I do. LOL
  • My family and I went to see my sister and her family and she had a BBQ and Pool Party. Wearing that swimsuit, again, I got in the pool. FYI, I can’t swim.
  • Last night, our book club, the Rocket City Mom Virtual Book Club, hosted Mary Laura Philpott, author of the memoir in essays, I Miss You When I Blink. I can’t even begin to tell you how nerve-wracking, but thrilling, that was. We have been planning it since May and I have been dreaming about having an author participate in a book discussion since we started the book club three years ago.
  • I completed my 95th consecutive day of exercise yesterday.

As I was reflecting back on these wonderful and new experiences, I realized that every single one of them existed because I did it, with fear. I talked about this in April here. And as I contemplated it further, I realized that the truth of the statement:

 “Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.”

– George Addair

A day at the beach in a swimsuit despite being afraid of being too fat to wear one. Accepting a dream position while handling the negativity my mind always throws at me that I am not good enough and that I will most assuredly fail.  Sitting on the Planning Committee despite thinking I have nothing to contribute and then agreeing to present while wondering if I am really the one that will be the best for the topic. Getting in a pool while wearing that swimsuit, again. Reaching out to Mary Laura (yes, she said that I can call her Mary Laura) to participate in our book club afraid that she would say no, then she said yes and I was afraid that no one would show up and that I would make an idiot of myself. Honestly, starting the book club was scary three years ago. When I started the #RunningWorld Running Streak the Sunday before Memorial Day, my goal was to run a mile every day for 40 days.  I didn’t think that I could make it but, like Forrest Gump, I’ve just kept going.

All of these things have turned into experiences that will be included in the highlight reel of my life. And every single one of them would NOT have happened if I had let fear decide, for some insane reason, that we weren’t going to do it.

Now I get it.  Everything I want is on the other side of fear.  If I am afraid of it, more than likely, it will be a very rewarding experience.

What you want is on the other side of fear. What do you want?

I’m linking up with Emily P. Freeman and her community to share what we learned. Head there to see others. You can learn a lot. And you can check out what I learned this Spring, last Winter and Fall, if you’re so inclined.  They seem to be building on each other. 

now i get it {spring 2019}

 

The past few seasons, I knew my “Now I Get It” lesson as soon as it happened.  Many times, I would start working on the post right away, sometimes weeks before the season was over.

This Spring has been different. This Spring has contained so many events that have sparked more ups and downs on my emotional roller coaster at one time than I have experienced in my life which included being a guest on the What Should I Read Next Podcast Episode 179 and a traumatic event. If you’ve been following me here, you will know that it has been overwhelming, terrifying, and exhilarating often on the very same day.

I survived, and maybe even thrived, by attempting to stay fully present in the moment that I was currently in.  I couldn’t do anything about what had happened before and I often did not have a clue as to what was going to happen in the future.  The best I could do was to attempt to stay intentionally focused on what was directly in front of me.

I say attempt because the act of staying is hard.  It often is, isn’t it? We dwell so much on the past, what we should have done and what would be different if we had done it differently. We worry about the future, what will happen and what we will do when it does happen or what we will do when it doesn’t happen and the myriad of scenarios that could happen in between, worrying ourselves sick in the present about something that HASN’T EVEN HAPPENED YET! I know. I am the queen, president, and dictator of the land of Worry.  My mom says that at around three-years-old, I told her “life was hard”.

But at close to 40, I am realizing the complete pointlessness of worry and this Spring I have begun putting into the place the one strategy that I have found that works: stay in the present moment. The axiom of Jesus, “to live one day at a time” has begun to become a very real thing and something that I have realized that I CAN actually do.

A meditation practice has helped. Journaling has helped.  Stillness has helped.  Running has helped.  Reading has helped.  The book, The Next Right Thing by Emily P. Freeman, has helped.

Now I get it. Stay in the present. And do whatever I need to do to stay there.

 enjoy life…

I’m joining Emily P. Freeman to share what we learned this Spring. Head over to her community to check out other lessons learned.