I have reflected on my year in various ways since 2015 and in the past two years, I hosted the Enjoy Life Events in my home for friends and family. Obviously, that is not happening this January but I wanted to share my format and a snippet of my personal reflection of 2020.
My process is an amalgamation of other people’s processes and methods, including Danielle LaPorte, Anne Bogel, Lavendaire, and PowerSheets.
I value this process and have found it to be so helpful and inspiring as I try to #enjoylife. It’s great to look back over the past years and see how much I have grown and learned. I encourage you to grab a pen and take a half hour or so to work through these prompts and then, if you’d like, share what you’ve discovered in the comments.
I start by listing a few things that I am grateful for from the previous year.
- Most of the close family and friends remained healthy.
- The pandemic has afforded my Hubby, the Buddy Man, and myself time together; time we would not have had without it.
- I really love my home and I love that I’m slowly but intentionally creating a space that I love.
Highlights and What Worked
I write down the positive and fulfilling events and situations that occurred during the previous year.
- Through an unfortunate situation, I was asked to interview the author of the bestseller, The Jane Austen Society, Natalie Jenner. It was one of the high points of my life.
- I read so many books that I loved this year. I’ll share some of them at a later date.
- I consistently exercised and hydrated throughout the year. I’m very proud of that consistency.
Lowlights and What Didn’t Work
I write down what didn’t work for me and some of my lower points of the year.
I am showing myself grace for what didn’t work this year. I have never experienced a year with so much upheaval and uncertainty. It was challenging.
- Stress and anxiety were a very real concern for me this year and I didn’t use my coping strategies that I know will assist me as often as I should. I succumbed to “doomscrolling” the news and some social media accounts, all in the name of staying informed.
- I often found myself “numbing” through unhealthful activities, including mindless Netflix bingening, in order not to feel the full weight of my emotions and because I was feeling overwhelmed by it all.
- Specifically to this blog, I didn’t share how I was feeling here. I disappeared for months at a time.
I write down some of the lessons I learned throughout the year.
The main lesson that I learned this year is that taking care of myself is a personal thing. What works for you may not work for me. And I can be, I am allowed to be, I need to bespecific and intentional about doing what will work for me, especially in times of crises. I thought I had learned this already but, apparently not.
Leaving Behind and/or Letting Go
I write down things I don’t want to do in the new year that I did in the old.
I’m going to work toward letting go my need for permission and validation by others. This is HUGE for me.
I write down what I want for myself in the new year. This can be as detailed as describing an entire perfect day or as little as a sentence about what my focus will be.
I can’t control anyone but me. And I know that 2021 will not hold any magic elixir to make the drama and challenges of 2020 go away. My hope is that it will be a kinder year for us all but if not, then that I will be kinder to myself and those around me.
Goals/Intentions for the New Year
I write down things that I want to accomplish or ways I want to be in the new year. I tend to only have two or three, per Danielle LaPorte’s recommendation.
I want to Be WELL this year. I loved Emily and Amelia Nagasoki’s definition of wellness: “the freedom to move fluidly through the cycles of being human.”
Word/Theme of the Year
I try to pick a word/theme for the year that I can remember and that will encapsulate what I hope for in the year.
My word/theme is AIR. This word invokes lightness and freedom. I will also breathe air when I exercise and meditate. Another definition of air is to make known and to give a voice.